You probably wouldn’t like my small group

Ben Reed —  February 28, 2011 — 10 Comments
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If you’re looking for a small group, you probably wouldn’t like mine.

Why you won’t like my small group

  • Nobody’s perfect. Our group is rather messy…in fact, much messier than I ever thought it would be.  If your life is clean and put together, and messiness frustrates you, you’ll hate our group.
  • We celebrate small steps, not just the ‘huge’ ones. And small steps may seem insignificant to you, so if you’re not willing to get excited over a step towards Jesus (no matter how seemingly insignificant), you’ll not feel at home with us.
  • There’s no teacher. Just a facilitator.  And the facilitator doesn’t have all of the answers, so if it’s merely answers you’re looking for, mosey on.
  • We talk about challenging stuff. And I don’t mean that we debate obscure theological dogma.  I mean that we work to apply the Scriptures to our lives.  If you love a great, obscure theological debate, you may not enjoy our group.
  • We expect full participation. Nobody in our group is lazy.  In one way or another, every member participates, and is vital to the success of the group as a whole.  If you want to be a lazy sponge, don’t join us.
  • We know each other’s stories. No hiding in our group.  Our group kicked off its first month by encouraging everybody in the group to share their faith story.  Comfortable?  Nope.  This group’s not for you.
  • We’re transparent. Mere platitudes aren’t acceptable.  If all of your answers start with, “Someone once said…” instead of, “I am dealing with…” then you’ll never be comfortable in our small group.
  • We’re diverse. If you’re looking for people that are just like you, who look, smell, act, read the same books, live on the same side of town, have the same number of kids…keep moving.  You’re not going to find that here.
  • Our group is going to end soon, and I’m going to ask each group member to take a step of faith and lead a new group…each one of them. No moss will be gathering with us.  If you like moss, find another group.
  • We serve together. Don’t want to serve?  That’s fine.  Just don’t get frustrated with us when we ask you to join us in making a difference in our community.
  • We have fun. Every week.  We laugh so hard that we snort.  We play games, share stories, and study the Bible…all while having fun.  I wrote more extensively about the importance of having fun in small groups HERE.  If you don’t like having fun, you’re an old codger.  And old codgers don’t last long in our group.

Based on the reasons above, would you want to join my small group?

 

Ben Reed

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Christ follower, husband, father, writer, small groups pastor at Saddleback Community Church. Communications director for the Small Group Network.
  • http://www.jrforasteros.com JR. Forasteros

    Thanks for this, Ben!

    We are shaping small groups at our church right now, and I’m totally going to steal this :)

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Take it, JR. It’s all yours.

  • http://twitter.com/Dynamic2uo David & Lorrie

    I love this and may have to read it at the beginning of my groups! Great list.

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Feel free to share it! Hope it helps your group!

  • http://twitter.com/jasonvana Jason Vana

    You bet! Those are the best kind of small groups!

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  • http://larryhehn.com Larry Hehn

    I like your small group, Ben! I’ve been blessed to be part of a few groups just like that over the years. It’s the best!

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      You’re welcome to be a part of my group anytime, Larry!

  • Jeremy Smith

    Ben, I would love to repost this article on our site for our small group leaders, what do I need to do to get approval?

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      You got it, Jeremy. Just give me some link love!