If you’re stuck…

WP Greet Box icon
Hello there! If you are new here, you might want to subscribe to the RSS feed for updates on this topic.

Whether you’re a dad, a store manager, a pastor, a small group leader, or a leader of any kind, if you’re stuck right now, my guess is that you’re asking the wrong questions.

Clouds_wire copy

image credit: CreationSwap user Boaz Crawford

If you want to get stuck in a rut with no sight of the sun, just keep asking the same questions over and over again. If you want to move forward, start asking different questions.

Instead of “who needs to be blamed here?” ask, “What can I do about it?”

Instead of “what can I do about it?” ask, “why?”

Instead of “why,” ask “why not?”

Instead of “why not,” ask, “Do I believe God can?” (Matthew 9:28)

Instead of asking whether you believe God can, ask “when?”

Instead of “when,” ask “now”?

Instead of “now,” ask “why am I scared”? (Matthew 8:26)

Instead of asking why you’re scared, ask, “Me?” (Isaiah 6:8)

Instead of “Me”, ask “who else”?

Instead of “who else,” ask “who can I serve?”

Instead of asking who you can serve, ask, “What needs to be tweaked?”

Instead of asking what needs to be tweaked, ask, “What needs to be done away with?

Instead of asking what needs to be done away with, ask “What if we had no resources?”

Instead of asking what you’d do if you had no resources, ask, “Am I being faithful with the little things in front of me?” (Luke 16:10)

Instead of asking if you’re being faithful, ask, “What would happen if we compiled every resource available to pull this off?”

Instead of that, ask, “Is this important enough to put significant financial, emotional, spiritual, and physical resources into?”

If it’s not, then stop what you’re doing. You’re asking the wrong question completely. Here’s where you need to start:

“What should I spend my life doing?”

You have a tweak on a traditional question we should be chewing on?



Christ follower, husband, father, writer, small groups pastor at Saddleback Community Church. Communications director for the Small Group Network.

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kris13wolfe Kris Wolfe

    Great thoughts Ben!

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Thanks, Kris!

  • http://twitter.com/daveawelch David Welch

    You nailed it! When we get stuck, our problem is that we’re asking the wrong questions. The solution is there. Sometimes we just need to change our perspective to find it. Great post!

  • http://undistractedchristian.com/ Tyler Hess

    instead of answering “What should I spend my life doing?”, ask “how can I come up with a smart-alec remark in the comments without sounding like a jerk?” the world may never know

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Heck yeah…love it, Tyler!

    • http://www.jasonvana.com Jason Vana

      Since Tyler stole my response, I guess I’ll go the serious route. Lately I’ve been asking what story I can write with the passions God has given me – and how I can empower others in their stories. It’s been enlightening to say the least.

  • Pingback: The Creative Punk » Friday Share #129: If You’re Stuck In A Rut…()