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As a pastor, I’m supposed to have it all figured out.
I have a degree in theology.
I have been called to full-time vocational ministry.
I help other people work on their marriages.
I’ve even written blog posts about how to preach a marriage ceremony, for crying out loud.
But I don’t have it figured out.
My wife and I, in seasons of our marriage, have had to ask for help. Shore up some weaknesses. Make our marriage stronger. Get my wife to realize how awesome I am. 🙂
Does that mean we’re weak? And not where we need to be? And that we don’t have a perfect marriage? And that we don’t have all of the answers.
Yep. You bet it does.
And we’re okay being honest about that. In being honest about times in our marriage when we needed help, we’re able to step alongside other couples and say, “It’s okay to ask for help. We have, too.”
There’s a perception that asking for help means you’ve got some sort of deficiency. That some disease has stricken your marriage, and now everybody looks at you like you’re a leper.
If that’s true, maybe it’s time to look for a new community where it’s okay to be yourself, scars and all.
It’s more than “okay” to ask for help in your marriage. In fact, I’d call it “wisdom.”
Time to wise up. Ask for some help from a couple that’s a little further down the road from you.
Ask them how they’ve worked through difficulties. How they’ve grown in their faith. How they’ve learned to argue well. How they’ve pointed their family to Jesus along the way.
Our marriages are too valuable to ignore our need for outside help.
The Spirit of God helps us in our weaknesses (Romans 8:26), and He often does that through others.
There’s no shame in asking for help.
Umm…this is awkward…but can you help me with my marriage?