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You may have read a part of our story about our miscarriage. I shared my perspective, and my wife shared hers.

To be honest with you, it’s been painful. Questions like, “Is this your only child?” hurt. Surely they don’t mean anything by their questions, but they sure feels loaded with accusations.

“You should have more.”

“If you really valued children…”

Then there were the more pointed ones that cut deep. The things you should never say to a woman.

I’ve shared our story countless times. It felt raw, because it was. It felt painful, because it was. It felt unfinished, because it was.

And just at the moment where we were resigning ourselves to believing that our chance to have another biological child was complete, we got some pretty exciting news.

We are pregnant!

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Which is unbelievably exciting! I can’t tell you how much we’ve waited for this time.

But we’re battling our fears, even now. We’re in to the 2nd trimester (due October 11), but knowing how the last pregnancy ended, we know it could happen again. We know that we could lose this pregnancy like the last one. And we desperately don’t want to experience that again.

My wife and I have prayed more during this season than we ever have in our lives. It’s caused us to lean in to God and trust Him, because we honestly don’t know what else to do.

In fact, there’s nothing else we can do. It’s completely in God’s hands. Completely. There’s no medical procedure we can do, no precautions we can take, and no safety measures we can put in place. We’re doing everything we can…but it’s not enough.

Life is in God’s hands. We know that. We’ve always known it. But now, that truth feels palpable. Every time I look at my wife’s belly, I’m reminded that God is the author of life. He’s the one that knits us together (Psalm 139:13), and nothing happens outside of His plan.

We covet your prayers. More than anything, we’d beg you to plead to God on our behalf: preserve this young baby’s life.

If you’ll commit to praying, I’d love for you to leave a comment below. That would mean a lot to me and my wife.



Christ follower, husband, father, writer, small groups pastor at Saddleback Community Church. Communications director for the Small Group Network.

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • Rita

    Sending my prayers and joy for this new, beautiful life!

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Thank you, Rita!!

  • Sara

    Ben! I couldn’t be more happier for you two. Living through a similar story and now being only two months from our bundle of joy finally arriving, I can do nothing but cry happy tears for you. I will continue to pray for your family. Thank you for sharing this news.

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Wow! Congrats, Sara!

      Thanks for the prayers. Can’t tell you how much my family appreciates it.

  • http://www.facebook.com/karenmacarthurgrizzard Karen MacArthur Grizzard

    I am so happy for your family. Lots of love and prayers coming your way.

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Thanks Karen!! Now get back to keeping that GCC office straightened out!

  • http://www.paulawiseman.com Paula Wiseman

    Congratulations! We will for grace and favor going forward. May you pass through the fears and concerns to embrace the joy :-) Blessings!

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Thanks Paula! We’re embracing the joy for sure…just walking cautiously and trusting God.

  • Nicole

    Congrats!!!! I’ve followed your struggles on your blog, and it is helping people who need to hear that people are over coming things like what you and your family has faced. Thank you for sharing and we will be praying! Again CONGRATS!!!!!!

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Thanks so, so much for the prayers, Nicole. We’re feeling them for sure.

  • Leslie Oden

    Congratulations to the Reeds!! We experienced a miscarriage when our oldest son was 3. It was a devastating loss, and doctors were not encouraging about us having more children. But a little more than two years after the miscarriage, our son Samuel (means “we asked God for him) was born. 362 days later, God blessed us with a little girl, and with another son 2 years after that. Even though we have a big beautiful family and our kids are grown, I haven’t forgotten the pain of infertility and loss. It’s my honor to pray for you all!!

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Wow! What a story, Leslie! Praise God!

      Thanks for the prayers!

  • http://larryhehn.com Larry Hehn

    Praying for your whole family, Ben!

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Can’t tell you how much I appreciate that, Larry.

  • Grandmama (Maw)


    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Thanks Maw! Love you!