How every dream dies…in 7 seconds

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You’ve had a dream that flopped. An idea that didn’t get off the ground. A passion that didn’t come to fulfillment.

I know you have.

  • You wanted to write a book.
  • You wanted to go to work for a non-profit.
  • You wanted to start a non-profit.
  • You wanted to read through the Bible in a year.
  • You wanted to pray every day.
  • You wanted to save enough money to go on a mission trip.
  • You wanted to audition for a part in a play.
  • You wanted to open your own business.
  • You wanted to start, and maintain, a blog.
  • You wanted to launch a small group.
  • You wanted to learn a new language.

You started the process. And somewhere along the way, it lost its cool factor. Someone challenged you. Someone laughed at you. Something didn’t go exactly as you thought it would go. Things grew difficult, and hairy, and life happened.

Dinner still had to be served. Bills still had to be paid. Deadlines still had to be met. And dreaming took a back seat.

So you stopped. You walked away. And your dream, your idea, and that thing that God called you to do is disappearing in your rear-view mirror.

You tried. Got embarrassed. Then walked away.

What does that look like, in real life? Boiled down to 7 seconds? Something like this.

This is my son, Rex. He was dancing in front of the mirror. Dancing like nobody’s watchin. Then he realizes that someone is watching, and gets embarrassed. Then walks away, glancing back as he goes.

It’s funny to watch, but kinda sad, too.

Who cares what other people think? Who cares if they laugh? Who cares if you fall flat on your face? Who cares if things don’t go exactly as you hoped they’d go?

If God’s called you to do something, do it. Ignore the haters. Ignore the cameras. Ignore the failed attempts.

Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?”

And I said, “Here am I. Send me!” – Isaiah 6:8

What’s God calling you to do? Be brave. Share it with us.



Christ follower, husband, father, writer, small groups pastor at Saddleback Community Church. Communications director for the Small Group Network.

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • Mark Riggins

    Love the video and the encouragement Ben. Currently, my dream is writing a book. I write and privately dance in front of the mirror because the message feels so powerfully God-given. But secretly I look around like Rex and fear people will . . . laugh. Back to writing . . . dancing. Thanks Ben.

    • Ben Reed

      Write it, Mark. I won’t laugh!

  • Tanuki-hime

    I can understand this for sure. I’m an author and a manga (comic) book artist there are times I look at my work and the lack of support or even the lack it’s noticed and wonder if it’s even worth the effort.

    • Ben Reed

      I tend to be harder on my own work than I am with others. Tough to give myself any slack. Sounds like you may be the same way. ??

  • ThatGuyKC

    As a dad I’ve caught my kids doing similar things. What catches me off guard is the joy their whimsy brings to others, but when they realize someone is watching and stop they don’t understand they are robbing us of joy.

    I’ve seen this in my own life as a blogger writing about my journey as a husband, father and leader. I want to encourage good men to be great.

    • Ben Reed

      I know. They have no idea.

      I love the correlation between us, when we stop pursuing our dream, that we rob others of joy, too. Good connection, KC.

  • Lani – the flowerlady

    your post got shared in our God-sized Dream Team (birthed out of the book You Were Made for a God-Sized Dream by Holley Gerth). Even though I’m part of that team I have to admit that I give way to the 7 second thing way too often. One day my name is going to be on the cover of a traditionally published book.

    • Ben Reed

      I love it, Lani! Keep at it!

  • Amy Hunt

    Dude! (I reserve that for only the pivotal times in my life when I’m awakened to the stirring and sitting straight up nodding my head in agreement)

    Finishing and publishing the book . . . being a leader in a professional way (as a woman! holla!) . . .

    Yep, those two specifically. Not connected. But yet, so very important nonetheless.

    • Ben Reed

      Dude! :)

      How’s the book coming along so far?!?