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“Your Jesus is Too Safe” Review

Have you ever seen a “Buddy Jesus”?  I remember seeing one for the first time on a shelf, and finding myself both laughing hysterically and being utterly disguisted at the same time.  I mean…seriously…who thinks of these kinds of things?

9780825439315In Jared Wilson’s book, Your Jesus is Too Safe, he confronts head-on the idols that we have made out of Jesus.  Not always physical, Buddy Jesus idols, but dangerous, joy-robbing, and soul-stealing nonetheless.  You may be worshiping a false Jesus and not even know it.  Scary, right?

I had a conversation just the other day with a person who said (sorry, I won’t tell you what church they go to), “It’s fine that some people follow Christ, and find God through him.  But others find God through many different paths.  And some people don’t call Him God.  They may call Him ‘purpose,’ or ‘science’ or ‘energy.'”  There’s not enough room to address each of these here, but suffice it to say that if you don’t know the Jesus of the Bible, you don’t know God. (John 14:6-9)  And Wilson clearly lays out who the Jesus of Scripture is.

Who is Jared Wilson? Think: John Piper meets Mark Driscoll meets Matt Chandler meets your-best-friend-who-shoots-straight-with-you-and-doesn’t-feel-bad-about-it.  I was struck by the accessibility of Wison’s theology.  His dry wit makes theology fun and inviting (as it should be).  Stuffy professors have the tendency to teach a dry, lofty, intellectual theology.  I’ve been through seminary.  I’ve read the books (well…most of them).  This would have been one of my favorites.  He brings theology to the level where most of us operate, and will make you laugh while he’s explaining things that are so often alliterated with 4 J’s…or O’s…or Q’s.  Instead of dozing off because you’re bored, you’ll find yourself drawn into knowing more and more about the true Jesus.

Who do you say that Jesus is? (p. 264)

I wanted to ask Jared a few questions so you could get to know him, his heart, and his wit just a little bit more, and hopefully be compelled to pick up a copy of his book.

1. The whole premise of your book is that the Jesus we are following is not the Jesus of the Bible.  That is offensive to some people, because basically you’re telling them that they’re believing and following the wrong Jesus.  How might somebody know that they’re following the wrong Jesus?

When you wake up and it turns out Jesus likes and dislikes the same things and people you do, you’re Jesus is too safe.
Or, if you read what he said and did in the Gospels and never think either a) That freaking scares me to death, or b) That blows me away, you’re Jesus is too safe.
If knowing the cost he paid for the debt we owed never thrills and breaks us, he’s too safe.

2.  Why is it that we are so easily duped into believing and following false Jesuses?

Short answer is sin, of course. The long answer is that we are always worshiping. That “worship” switch inside us is never flipped to the Off position, so we just keep worshiping, keep moving like sharks in the ocean. So because we’re still exercising the worship impulse — and we’re going to church each Sunday — we think we’re worshiping Jesus, when really we could be worshiping our own self-esteem or the approval of others or success in our life or comfort or convenience or whatever, but it all has a Jesus sheen on it.
We drift into idolatry easily and quickly and subtly. This is why God is constantly spanking the Israelites. It just happens. And it just happens to us because idolatry is in our hearts.

3. Too safe?  My Jesus is “too safe?”  What does safety have to do with anything?

Because “Deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow me” is the epitome (x3) of danger.

4.  Your humor regularly comes through in the book.  Isn’t theology one of those things we should be more serious about?

Yes. I tried to make the humor in the book more the window dressing than the furniture in the room, and further, to have it more about taking ourselves less seriously and God moreso. But I’m also a sarcastic dork, so I couldn’t write it and not have that come out.

5.  You talk a lot about who Jesus is in the book.  Does it really matter what we believe?  I mean, shouldn’t Christians be all about “doing” and stop “thinking” so much?

Yes, if you think there won’t be people who say to Jesus at the judgment “We did x, y, and z for you” to whom he says in response, “I have no idea who you are.”
The “doing without thinking” thing is precisely what leads to self-righteousness.
This week I’ve begun a series through Colossians at our church, and one thing that has sort of struck me for the first time as I prepare, is that Paul’s letters, which are full of practical exhortations and behavioristic commands, nearly always begin with some hard core doxological proclamation of the gospel. Philippians has it, Ephesians has it, Colossians has it. And it’s sort of like, for Paul’s writing, the gospel is huge at the introduction in order to provide the momentum for the hills and valleys of the practical stuff. The gospel has to be the thing that pushes us, propels us, carries us through, like the first big drop of a roller coaster. Or else we end up thinking life is all about the little “doings” and, worse, that we’re doing those “doings” under our own power.

6.  When you wrote this book, did you write it for mature believers, immature believers, seekers, children, adults?  Who was your target audience?

It’s for people who need to hear about Jesus and the gospel, which I think is everyone, Christian and non. But I know you’re not supposed to market a book that broadly.

The book does assume a certain working level of Christianity, and it does sort of assume that the reader is interested in deepening his or her understanding of what Jesus said and did. It assumes the reader has “a Jesus” that may or may not need clarifying.

And given the pop cultural references, the humorous footnotes and the sarcasm and what-not, it is probably most in the language of Christians 18-40 or so.

7.  Have you found yourself ever following a “safe” Jesus?

Yes. For the first 30 years of my life without knowing it. And then every day for the last 3 years or so, except now when I do it, I usually know that I am.

8.  The Bible is the greatest selling book of all time.  Do you think “Your Jesus is too Safe” will eclipse the Bible’s sales?  How soon do you predict that will happen?

By my calculations, it will be sometime in 2013, but since the apocalypse foretold by the Mayan Calendar occurs before that, I won’t get to do any blasphemous victory dances.

For more reviews of Your Jesus Is Too Safe, and additional interviews with the author Jared Wilson, please visit Jared Wilson’s blog, The Gospel-Driven Church, for blog tour links.

 

Desensitization

It’s easy to become desensitized. We become less sensitive to things in a very short period of time.

The more often you drink caffeine, the less effect it has on you.

The more often you eat out, the less special it becomes.

Drive the same route to work every day, and you can almost get there with your eyes closed.

Laura and I watched a movie with some friends last night.  It’s not one I’m all that proud that we saw (though I did enjoy being with good friends).  The language was absolutely pitiful.  I think I heard the “f” word more in that movie than I have in my entire life.  There was more coarse talk in that movie than my grandparents have heard in their lifetime.  Seriously.  It was embarassingly crude.  At first, my sensors were turned up really high.  It’s as if every curse word stood out like a sore thumb, and every lewd statement made the screen flash “red alert” to my ears.  But by the end of the movie, I could almost look past those words.  Not that I would excuse them, but after over 2 hours of it, I had become desensitized.  I almost didn’t even hear the foul language, looking past it to see the storyline and character development.

Isn’t it the same way with sin?  The more we give in to sin, the more it feels normal?  The more it begins to feel like a natural part of life.  “This is just who I am…” “This is how God created me…” “I can’t help what I do…” “It just feels right…”  We easily fall into the trap of being desensitized to sin.

We need to wake up.  God is doing miraculous things around us, through us, and for us each and every day.  He gives us life.  He makes the wind blow.  He works salvation.  And He wants what’s best for you (well…He wants what’s best for Him (see Isaiah 43:7), which is what is best for us).

Do you hate your sin, or do you find yourself gravitating towards it time and time again?  Maybe you need a change of scenery.  Maybe you need to spend more time with the Lord and less watching TV.  Maybe you need to spend time building community with others instead of returning again to your vomit (sorry, that was a bit explicit…but that’s what Proverbs says).

I join you in this fight.  I’m so easily led astray.  I’m too easily desensitized.

And do this, understanding the present time. The hour has come for you to wake up from your slumber, because our salvation is nearer now than when we first believed. The night is nearly over; the day is almost here. So let us put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. -Romans 13:11-12

 

How NOT to lead a small group

Listening is an important aspect of leading a small group.  I even mentioned it in a recent post HERE.  Actively listening, asking appropriate follow-up questions, noticing body language, and helping people understand the heart of the issue being discussed are all part of facilitating discussion in a small group environment.

If you desire to be a good small group leader, you must work on your listening skills.

Obviously, listening isn’t the only thing that a small group leader needs to be able to do, but I believe that it is a vital skill that group leaders must learn.  Check out this video.  It’s a great example of somebody who does not really listen, does not ask appropriate questions, offends with statements and questions, and quickly judges based on partial information.  Enjoy!

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Saturday fun

I’m all for a good laugh.  If this video doesn’t make you laugh, or even if it does, you should join us tomorrow morning at Grace Community Church.  Expect to see nothing like this:

 

Small group leaders, listen up!

Be quick to listen, slow to speak. -James 1:19

James knew us too well. He knows that we would struggle with speaking too much, too quickly, and too often. He knew that it would be easier to step up and say something than to push through silence and allow someone else time to process and respond.

James was a wise man. And we’d do well to follow his wisdom.

Small group leaders need to remember this when leading their small group.

4 Ways to Listen Well

1. Listen intently to people’s stories. Knowing where somebody has come from and why they gave that particular answer will be unbelievably helpful for you as you lead that person.  Listening to and remembering people’s stories makes them feel that you care, and is a way you can love your group members.

2. Ask questions and wait for answers. Don’t ask a question and give your answer first.  Let others chew on it and share their thoughts.  Some people are slower to answer than others.  They may be more contemplative and take longer to process their answers.  Or, they may simply be polite and not want to talk over anybody.  As the group leader, be okay with silence. You may have introverts in your group.

3. Observe body language. Communication happens verbally and non-verbally.  Don’t neglect either. If someone seems to be eager to engage, give them the chance. If they’re hesitant, be careful pressing in too much.

4. Ask follow-up questions. Instead of taking an answer at face value and moving on, linger for a while.  Ask a follow-up question that draws the answer out a bit more.  Ask the group for feedback.  Listen for similarities and differences in responses, and connect them.

Truth: The goal of a small group is not for the “right” answer to be the first answer.

Work to facilitate discussion.

Work to listen more and talk less.

 

Living Gray

There are some decisions in our lives that are black and white.  “I need some new clothes, so should I buy them or steal them?”  This is one of those decisions that’s not all that difficult for most people, right?  There’s a right choice and a wrong choice.  A choice that honors God and one that dishonors Him.  How about, “Hey, I think I might go out and lie to somebody today…does that sound like something you might like to do with me?”  Clear choice.  Right and wrong.

Something that is “gray” is neither black nor white.  It’s somewhere in the middle…maybe a little more black, maybe a hint more on the white side, but still, it’s “gray.”  Differing shades, but gray nonetheless.  And isn’t this where lots of our lives operate?  We’re not often faced with decisions that are blatantly right or wrong…there’s a hint of gray involved.  So how do we make decisions when we don’t have a definitive answer on a given issue?

My barometer is Scripture (though I acknowledge that many people have differing gauges) for matters of faith and practice.  If Scripture declares that a thought, a motive, or an action is wrong, then it is wrong…not just for me, but for everybody.  If Scripture declares that a certain action is right, or good, then not even the law of the land trumps.

So what determines what is right and what is wrong (for the purpose of this blog, lets focus on things which are not prohibited by law, and which God through Scripture has not spoken clearly on).  To get us on the same page, think about things like smoking a cigarette, watching a rated R movie, spanking your children, or getting a tatoo.  How about things like drinking alcohol in moderation, watching TV, or drinking coffee.  What about saying curse words (excluding those said in anger), sending your children to private Christian school, or listening to secular music?

How do you discern what is right and wrong?  Is it your own conscience?  In other words, if you’re not convicted that a certain action is wrong, it’s ok to do it?

Or are these gray areas things that all Christians should stay away from?  Maybe your mantra is, “If it’s gray, stay away.”  Are these things that, when we stay away from them, witness to others of our relationship with Christ?

I’ll post my thoughts on this soon, but I wanted to open up a discussion before I chimed in.  Let me know what you think.

 

Be an Expert!

So a few days ago I was disappointed, and today I’m just left shaking my head.  I was looking at the details and speaker lineup for an upcoming conference designed to help pastors and leaders make the best use of social media (Facebook, Twitter, blogs, etc.).  I looked at each speaker’s bio, and clicked through to their blog sites.  Three of their blogs had not been updated in over a week (which isn’t a huge deal), and two had not been updated in over 3 months!  If you are going to be a social media “expert,” you have got to be diligent about interacting in the social media world!  Updating a blog sporadically is fine for most people.  But for others, such as a speaker at a national event, not updating your blog kills your reputation and influence.

Are you becoming an “expert” in your field?  If not, why not?  Those you lead deserve your best.  If you’re a pastor, be the best in town.  If you’re a plumber, offer the best plumbing work available.  If you’re a real estate agent…find a new job (I’m kidding!).  You can become an expert in any field that you want, but it takes effort.  Read, ask questions, learn from others who are better at it than you, practice, practice, practice.

This “blogger” was supposed to be an expert, but he wasn’t.  He could have been, but dropped the ball.  Don’t lose influence with people by claiming one thing and living another.  That’s called hypocrisy.

And nobody likes a hypocrit.

Not even God.

 

Get out of the Box

This past weekend, Laura, my wife, and I traveled to Atlanta, GA, to visit with small groups pastor Scott Mawdesley, who was generous enough to give us a tour of North Point Community Church and allow us to ask lots of questions about what they do and why they do it.  We also got to visit Buckhead Church on Sunday morning.  The entire weekend was a great experience.

Whatever you do for a living, I would strongly suggest getting out of your normal environment.  Plan a day, a weekend, or even an entire week, to get away and learn from somebody else in a related field.  Here are 3 reasons why I think you desperately need this:

1. We migrate to tunnel-vision. Over time, you begin to think that you have the market on all of the great ideas.  Well, you don’t.  Trust me.  You may have lots of good ideas, but not all of them.

2. Evaluation naturally declines when you’re in the same box for an extended amount of time. Think with me for a minute.  If you’re literally in a box for a month, you might be in evaluation mode for a week or two.  Then, you begin to think that you’ve evaluated everything.  And probably, you have.  It’s only when you get into another person’s box that you see that your box is in need of repair.  Seeing other systems helps you to evaluate holes in your own.

3. Leading an organization (or a small group) can lead to burnout. Visiting other sites, and taking a break from wearing the “leader” hat, is refreshing, and needed on a regular basis.  Getting out of your box allows you to take a deep breath and relax.

So here’s my question for you:

Have you taken a break from leading and visited another business/small group/church?  What did you learn?

 

Don’t be a hypocrit

I’m listening to a myriad of music right now.  One artist that I’m really liking is Jon Foreman, lead singer of the band Switchfoot, who has recently recorded four EP’s (Fall, Winter, Spring, and Summer), and has also recently recorded an album with Sean Watkins (of Nickel Creek) as the band Fiction Family.  I love Jon’s song, Instead of a Show.  It’s taken almost directly from Isaiah 1.  Here are the lyrics:

Instead Of A Show
I hate all your show and pretense
The hypocrisy of your praise
The hypocrisy of your festivals
I hate all your show
Away with your noisy worship
Away with your noisy hymns
I stomp on my ears when you’re singing ’em
I hate all your show

Instead let there be a flood of justice
An endless procession of righteous living, living
Instead let there be a flood of justice
Instead of a show

Your eyes are closed when you’re praying
You sing right along with the band
You shine up your shoes for services
There’s blood on your hands
You turned your back on the homeless
And the ones that don’t fit in your plan
Quit playing religion games
There’s blood on your hands

Instead let there be a flood of justice
An endless procession of righteous living, living
Instead let there be a flood of justice
Instead of a show
I hate all your show

Let’s argue this out
If your sins are blood red
Let’s argue this out
You’ll be one of the clouds
Let’s argue this out
Quit fooling around
Give love to the ones who can’t love at all
Give hope to the ones who got no hope at all
Stand up for the ones who can’t stand at all, all
I hate all your show

What do you think?  Is God pleased every time you do “good” things?  Or is there more to it than that?  Can you really displease God while doing the “right” thing?

 

The Validity of Virtual Community

I’ve read the blogs.  I’ve listened to the arguments.  I had even tried it out…a little.

But I hadn’t fully experienced online community.

I would say that there has been some level of “community” developed for me through Twitter, Facebook, and blogs.  Community, for me, though, is one of those things that was always developed in person.  Sometimes it’s on a biycle, other times it’s with my small group, and other times it’s at a coffee shop with a few guys.

I unexpectedly experienced community yesterday morning after I read this update from Alan Danielson:

@alandanielson: I’m praying for NOW 10 more minutes. Reply with your prayer request or join me for live prayer via @TokBox

There was a link after the update, and I clicked on it.  There was Alan, sitting in front of his computer screen, praying for his friends.  I shared my request with him, and he prayed for me on the spot.

Alan then invited me to “hang on the line,” and he was going to invite some of his other friends into the conversation.  As the other 3 men joined, they began to share their experiences from their prayer time.  They, like Alan, had prayed for their friends during that 20 minutes, and invited people to share requests with them.  As they finished sharing their stories from the prayer time, they shared their own requests with the group.  I thought that it would be a bit cheesy, even cold-feeling because we were so far spread out across the country, looking at each other on a tiny screen.  But real, gut-wrenching requests were shared.  Nothing fake.  No masks.  No walls of separation.  Real, honest, vulnerable requests.  And it all happened while I sat in my office chair alone.

Twitter and Tokbox helped me fulfill this today:

Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. -Romans 12:11-13

I felt a real burden, prayed a real prayer, and was really encouraged after talking with these men.

What do you think of online community?

Is it real community?  Or is community only formed while sitting in the same room as the other person?

 
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