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Wedding Day Blunders

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I’m preparing to perform a wedding ceremony today.  I get more nervous doing a wedding than I do preaching a normal, full-length sermon.  I guess the reason is that if I mess up a wedding…well…let’s pray that never happens.

Very few, if any, weddings are complete without a goof-up, or two, or three.  On our wedding day, my keys were lost (notice I didn’t say that I lost my keys…I still think it was a conspiracy against me!), the groomsmen showed up 1 hour late for pictures, it took way too long for the wedding party to make it to the reception, and it rained, which meant that our reception had to be inside (the building could hold about half of the amount of people we crammed into it).  You know what, though?  At the end of the day, we were married.  And I guess that’s my point.

Mistakes are bound to happen.  Details will be forgotten.  The pastor may even mess up.  But for all you brides (and maybe even grooms), breathe a sigh of relief.  The goal is marriage.  And as long as that’s accomplished, the day can be counted successful.

What mistakes happened on your wedding day?

 

Bad Chicken

On Monday morning, I had some leftover chicken that I brought to work with me.  My arms were full when I got out of the truck to walk into the office, and I inadvertently forgot the chicken.  3 hours later, I realized my mistake, walked out to the truck to get it, and came back inside to put it in our refrigerator.  I ended up having lunch plans on Monday, so I left it in the fridge until yesterday.

I was really hungry, and the thought of grilled chicken made my mouth water.  30 minutes after I had finished it, my mouth was far from watering.  My stomach was messed up!  In the 3 short hours the chicken hung out in my hot truck, it had spoiled.  It tasted good going down, but soon had its revenge.

In your church, or business, or organization, are you set up to move swiftly on ideas that fit within your mission and vision? Or are you set up in such a hierarchical pyramid that, even if an idea is brilliant, it takes months, or even years, to move forward with it? Or maybe you’re so locked into a certain way of fulfilling the strategy of your company that you can’t see the value of a new idea.  Good ideas can go bad quickly when they’re not acted upon.

At one point, that chicken would have been a great choice for lunch.  But left in the truck, it spoiled.

 

How NOT to lead a small group

Listening is an important aspect of leading a small group.  I even mentioned it in a recent post HERE.  Actively listening, asking appropriate follow-up questions, noticing body language, and helping people understand the heart of the issue being discussed are all part of facilitating discussion in a small group environment.

If you desire to be a good small group leader, you must work on your listening skills.

Obviously, listening isn’t the only thing that a small group leader needs to be able to do, but I believe that it is a vital skill that group leaders must learn.  Check out this video.  It’s a great example of somebody who does not really listen, does not ask appropriate questions, offends with statements and questions, and quickly judges based on partial information.  Enjoy!

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What's this blog about?

My blog may seem random to you.  And if that’s what you think it is…you’re probably right.  In talking with successful bloggers, I’m often told that I should choose one or two things to blog about, and blog at least a couple of times a week about each of those topics.

But that’s not me.

And my blog is a snapshot of my life.

And I am dealing with much more than one or two things per week.

It’s about my life, how I process things, and what I’m dealing with.  It’s leadership, small groups, and parenting.  It’s theology and counseling.  It’s a devotional thought and a book review.  It’s sometimes about adoption or a post from a friend.  In short, it’s my life.  I’m trying to process all of life through the grid of Scripture, thinking through things theologically.  Sometimes I hit the mark…sometimes I miss it badly.  Hopefully you’ll see growth in my own life through my blog, but if you see me miss it, please give me some grace.  I’ve still got lots of growing and learning to do.

I guess I’ve been thinking about this because I want my blog to be effective for my readers.  If my blog ceases to be relevant and helpful for my readers, I need to rethink and restructure things.  If it ceases to be effective for me, I need to stop blogging.  I hope that it always will be a helpful source of information for readers, but one thing that I’m certain of right now is that it’s effective for me.  It really helps me to flesh out my thoughts and communicate them in a way that others can understand.  Writing forces me to shape my thoughts into some form of definable action on my part.  If I put them on “paper,” I’m more likely to act on them and live them out.

Thanks for all of you who put up with my rambling, often random blog.

 

3 Things your Church Needs to be Doing

I delivered a talk (what are you supposed to call something like that when it’s not a sermon?) to a group of pastors the other day on the value of small groups.  I wanted to give them a snapshot of what we do at Grace Community Church, and introduce them to the world of small groups (they all come from churches who have on-campus Sunday School as their form of small groups).  It was not my goal to convince them all that they needed to abandon their way of doing groups, but to challenge them to think strategically about their system, and whether it was accomplishing what they were wanting it to accomplish.  Whether you’re in a Sunday School environment, a small group/home group culture, or a mixture of the two, here are three things your church needs to be doing:

1.  Cast the vision.  Seek to answer the questions, “Why do we need each other?” and “Why are we deficient without small groups?”  Use any of the 38 one-another passages found in Scripture (e.g., 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Ephesians 4:1-3, James 5:16) to point out the fact that we need each other.  Sunday morning, large gathering services alone are not enough for your spiritual growth.  This vision must be cast from the pastor on stage on Sundays.  The vision must be cast repeatedly, with the pastor sharing both theologically and practically (the pastor himself must be involved in a small group, so that he can share what God is doing in his own heart, and how God is changing the hearts of those in his small group as well) the value of small groups.

2.  Recruit leaders.  How do you count a person as qualified?  Instead of looking at spiritual position, I look at spiritual velocity.  I also don’t lock myself into looking for the gift of teaching.  I’m not asking small group leaders to teach, in the way we traditionally understand teaching.  I’m asking someone to facilitate, lead, shepherd.  That frees me up to recruit tons of more well-qualified people to be small group leaders.  I look for spiritual maturity in the way Jesus defined it in Matthew 22:36-40, as an increasing love for God and others.

3. Define your church’s win.  If a win for you is increasing numbers, don’t be discouraged if disciples aren’t produced.  If you count it a win to see giving increased, don’t scrap your system if numbers decrease.  Know what your win is, define it clearly, and be ready to use that as your measuring tool.  I count it a win when a person takes a step towards becoming a more faithful disciple, and that looks different for every person.  For some, it looks like committing to attend church regularly.  For others, it may look like forgiving their spouse.  For another, it may look like pursuing reconciliation with their mother.  God rejoices in small steps in the right direction, and so should we.

What is your church doing to make small groups a place of dynamic spiritual growth?  If they’re not doing any of the above, maybe it’s time to start.

 

Diapers

I feel a bit like a hippy, now that my wife and I have switched over to cloth diapers. For a few reasons, we decided to make the shift, and it’s honestly been a pretty good one. I saw this clip on Saturday Night Live, and immediately was grateful that we only made the switch to cloth. If you’re eating lunch right now, do yourself a favor and put it to the side. Trust me.

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Advent Songs CD

Advent Songs (2007)

advent_songs_cover.JPGOriginal and Traditional Christmas Songs from Sojourn Artists, including Jamie Barnes, Dirt Poor Robins, Brooks Ritter, and more. Available now for free or pay-what-you-want.

The emphasis here is on the already/ not-yet tension of Advent, the season of waiting and anticipation before Christmas. Advent comes to us in the darkest season of the year — a season when the nights are long, the days are cold, and we look with anticipation for the return of the warmth in the spring. The songs have both a dark sense of anticipation and glimpses of light dawning in the face of the Christ child.

As we celebrate this season, we celebrate that our Messiah has come, and we look with longing to the day when he comes again. As St. John says, “Amen! Come Lord Jesus.”

To download the cd for free, click here.

 

The mental health field and YOU

I am curious as to what your relationship is with mental health. If you don’t mind, please take this poll. It will help me know where you’re at with respect to the mental health field. Thanks!

 
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