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Decision paralysis

Last night, my wife and I tried out a new restaurant in town.  We love trying new places, and sushi is one of our favorites.  So when we found out about a Japanese fusion restaurant (I’m still not exactly sure what that means, even after eating there), we were stoked.

When we sat down, we began to look at the menu (which, mind you, was in English). I flipped past the first page. Then on to page 2…then 3…and on to the 4th, 5th, and 6th pages. Then back to 1.  Then to 2…and so on.  I did this 4 times…I’m not kidding.  Our waiter approached the table and asked, “Are you ready to order?”  And you know what my decision was?  “Sorry, I’m not quite ready yet.”  When the waiter returned a couple minutes later, I had the same reply. And I was no closer to ordering than when I walked into the restaurant. Why?

I had decision paralysis.

There were so many choices that I just couldn’t decide what I wanted.  My guess is that there were over 100 menu items, each with a sentence or two description.  I was overwhelmed.  Hence, I couldn’t make a decision.

It had nothing to do with the fact that I was torn between a couple of different items, with one good and another bad.  In fact, I have no doubt (based on how good our food was) that all of their food is superb.  I just couldn’t decide what I wanted.

Think I’m weird?  The other 5 people at the table had the same problem when they were ordering.  There were just too many choices.

And I think we fall into that same trap in our churches.  It seems like a good idea, right?  Offering a program that fits each person’s given wants seems intuitive.  Going the simple route is counter-intuitive.

But if you try to be all things to all people, you’ll leave people confused. Paralyzed. Unable to move.  Not sure which direction to take.

Take a look at your current discipleship structure.  Work your strategy so that you help your church grow healthy disciples, but don’t leave them so overwhelmed by choices that they end up making no choice.  By simplifying your structure, you leave room for people to invest in their families and community.   It also allows you (church leadership) to devote all of your energy towards that one discipleship plan, and execute it with excellence.

I’m all about simplifying.  Maybe it’s time that your church or organization let dead programs go ahead and die.  Or start doing away with programs that aren’t accomplishing your strategy anymore.

By offering less, you can actually offer more.

But maybe I’m off base.  What do you think?

Ever been a part of a church or organization that offered too many options?

 

I don’t need to go to church

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Recently I said this on Twitter:

Can a person REALLY be growing in their faith & NOT be involved in a faith community? I think not.

As you might imagine, it stirred some people up.

As you can also imagine, the ones it stirred up were the ones not involved in a faith community (a general term that I used to point to church, small group, Sunday School, etc.)

I would love to hear from you, but before that, I’ll throw my thoughts into the ring. 

Can a person grow in their faith and not be involved in a faith community?

1. No.

2. 9 times out of 10, in my opinion, the statement, “I don’t need to go to church” is used as an excuse.  The people who say this aren’t growing, and don’t have much intention to grow.  Church would bring conviction and accountability…two things that they don’t have, and don’t truly desire.

3. For those who fall into the 1 out of 10 who aren‘t using, “I don’t need to go to church” as an excuse, I would say that the Church needs you as much as you need the church.  We need your encouragement, love, accountability (doctrinal as well as moral/practical), wisdom, love, care, support, admonition, rebuke, teaching, and leadership.  And you need us for the same reasons.

4. “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” (Hebrews 10:24-25)  Going to church brings us into close contact with the Church.  Hearing others worship, praying with others, hearing Scripture preached, and building relationships with others in the Church all help to grow our faith, and are, in my opinion, vital to your relationship with Christ.

5. We are prone to forget.  We need others to remind us, and spur us on in this walk of faith.  We get wrapped up in the trivialities of life, and get bogged down with details.  Others help remind us of the power of the resurrection.  The brevity of life.  The life-transforming power of grace.  The healing nature of forgiveness.  Without the Church, we quickly lose sight of all of that.  I can read about these things in a book…but seeing them lived out in the guy sitting two pews over is different altogether.

6. UPADATE – After a comment I received via Facebook, I’ve decided to make an addition to this post.  I’d like to make concessions for folks who are not able to travel, due to health or other reasons.  Those people should not feel an ounce of guilt for not traveling to gather with other believers.  That said, though, I truly believe that they need to gather with others, so the Church’s responsibility would be to go to them.

What do you think?  Do you believe that it’s possible to grow in your faith without “meeting together?”

 

Sunday School vs Small Groups

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“Sunday School guys” and “small group guys” are often pitted against each other.  Here are some of the stereotypes:

Sunday schools help people to grow in Biblical knowledge…small groups don’t.

Small groups build healthy relationships…Sunday schools don’t really care about the relational aspect.

Small groups are relevant…Sunday school was relevant 50 years ago.

Sunday school really helps people go “deep” in their faith…small groups stay on the surface-level depth of Christianity.

Here are a few things I can confidently assert about the discipleship in the Christian life:

  • Discipleship is more than just information transfer.  The disciples spent time with Jesus.  They heard him preach…but that wasn’t Jesus’ only method of making disciples.  He spent significant amounts of time with them.
  • “Depth” doesn’t just mean a person can quote all 9 of John Piper’s sermons on TULIP, or completely and succinctly recite the Westminster Catechism.  Some of the deepest, most life-changing conversations I have had with others haven’t revolved around difficult, divisive theological issues.  Depth, in my opinion, is about things which matter both here and in eternity.  Not all of those things necessitate insider language. (see my post on the danger of insider language HERE)  Can we really say that the intricacies of the atonement are “deeper” than the challenge to truly love our neighbor?
  • However we communicate (via sermon, blog, twitter, Facebook, over a cup of coffee, a text message, an email, a letter, or an iPhone app), we need to portray the life-transforming nature of the Gospel (the nature and pervasiveness of sin, the hopelessness of the sinner, the person and life of Christ, and the hope of a coming resurrection) in a way that makes sense to both believers and non-believers alike.
  • The goal of Christianity is Christ-likeness. See Romans 8:29, 2 Corinthians 3:18, Galatians 4:19, Ephesians 4:13, 22-24
  • This goal cannot be accomplished without the help of others.  Jesus, in John 13:34, said, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”  You cannot do that on your own!

I believe that the way that we, at Grace, do small groups is the best way that the above truths of discipleship are accomplished.  If, at some point, we cease to make disciples, I’m willing to throw out the system in favor of the mission.  Don’t believe me?  Read my post about that very thing HERE and HERE.

What do you think?  Is discipleship better accomplished in Sunday School or small groups?  Should we throw both of them out and start all over?

If you want to see small groups expert Rick Howerton and Sunday School guru David Francis talk this through, check out the video they put together HERE.

 

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