I’ve seen this a lot on people’s blogs, and frankly it bothers me.
Sorry, life has been busy and I haven’t had time to blog…
And then it’s often followed up with a promise
I’m going to be blogging every day for the next 289 days, that’s my commitment to you!
And then, 12 days later, I read yet another apology on their blog.
I’m not going to start with an excuse like that. Because when I start with ‘Sorry…it’s been a busy season…’ I insult just about every reader of my blog. Because what I’m saying is, “I’m much busier than you. Because I assume you are checking my blog every day and are shaking your fists at me, foiled once again because you were hoping I’d write another post to fill up your day because you have nothing else to do. You lazy sloth. Get a job.”
Ok, so maybe I’m not actually saying all of that…
I’m not going to use those excuses, because you don’t care if I’m busy. You don’t care how long it’s been since I’ve blogged. You just want me to write.
And this mindset and subsequent offense happens all of the time in life. Not just on blogs. Check this out. Maybe you’ve said something like this.
Common insulting excuses
- Sorry I’ve been slow to respond to your email. Life has been busy.
- Sorry we haven’t been able to meet. I’ve been really busy.
- Sorry that I haven’t finished that project yet. I’ve been swamped.
- I know I told you I’d help you out. I’ve been extraordinarily busy. Sorry.
Likely I’m not any busier than you are. We’ve all got 24 hours in a day. And we all make time for things that we value.
When I lead with, “Sorry, I’m busy…” I presume that you’re not also busy. I presume that my time is more important than yours. That I’m more important than you, and that your time with your job, your family, your church, and your hobbies isn’t also important.
So I’m going to quit apologizing and just start doing the work. No promises or apologies or excuses. Just creating art and forward momentum.
Instead of wasting the time it takes to fill you in on why I haven’t lived up to expectations, I’ll just start living up to expectations.
Question: Am I the only one with a busy schedule?