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Prayer Request for Rex, my son

I obviously believe in the value of community (my work at Grace centers on community groups).  In fact, I think it’s absolutely essential to living life.  We were created to be dependent on each other, and when we aren’t, there’s something that’s missing.  God lives life in community (that whole Trinity thing), and expects that the community that we have with Him we would also have with others.  We were never created to live life alone.  Which is why I am writing you this blog today.

We need you all right now.  Rex, our 11-week old son, is having surgery tomorrow (Tuesday, January 13th).  It’s ‘routine,’ so we’re told, but nothing is really routine when it comes to sending your child in for surgery.  He has an inguinal hernia that has to be repaired.  It’s only on one side, but they’ll scope the other side to make sure it’s not about to do the same thing.   We’re also told that it’s ‘normal’ (though that word doesn’t offer a lot of consolation right now).  It’s more common in boys than in girls, on the left side than the right, and is more common in premature babies (Rex was born 4 weeks early).  We would greatly appreciate your thoughts and prayers, because even though this is ‘normal’ and ‘routine’ it’s still stressful.  The main cause for concern with the doctors is the anesthesia.  Babies who were born prematurely are at an increased risk of apnea, which is why they’re keeping us one extra day.

We trust deeply in the sovereignty of God.  We know that Rex’s life is in His hands, and I don’t mean that in a trite kind of way.  We trust that Christ upholds the universe (Hebrews 1:3) and that, in Him, all things hold together (Colossians 1:17).  Please pray that we would find hope, comfort, and rest in our Savior, that we would remain steadfast in our faith, as He has remained steadfast to us, and that we might see His mighty hand woven throughout this whole process.

Thank you in advance for your prayers of support.

 

Forward thinking parenting

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Should we plan for the future? It seems that the Israelites did:

Deuteronomy 6:20-21, “In the future, when your son asks you, ‘What is the meaning of the stipulations, decrees and laws the LORD our God has commanded you?’ tell him: ‘We were slaves of Pharaoh in Egypt, but the LORD brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand.'”

There was the assumption that children would ask their parents in the future, thus the need for planning. That verse strikes me especially sharply now that I’m a father. I want to be prepared to answer the questions of life that my son will ask. I want to be able to point him to the Scriptures as the source for life. I want my answers to always paint a picture of the big God that we serve. I don’t want to answer the question, “Why are you disciplining me?” with “Because I said so.” Rather, I want to point my son back to the biblical responsibility I have as a parent to honor God and love him (my son). See Hebrews 12:7-11. I have a mere 18 years with my son at home to influence him and point him to the gospel. I want to take full advantage of every opportunity to weave in the grand news of God’s offer of salvation.

How might I do that? Here’s where my plan starts (I’ll be using the RSS feed). What’s your plan for answering the spiritual questions your children will (or are) going to ask in 2009?

 

Thanksgiving and Community

I was reminded over Thanksgiving of the fact that I was created for community.  We all have heard that “it’s not Thanksgiving without the _______,” right?  Fill that blank in with Turkey, dressing, cranberries, or punkin’ pie, and you have the typical answer given in response to the essential component of Thanksgiving.  But I was reminded of the more cohesive component, that of family (which takes on a whole new meaning for me now that I’m a dad).

No longer did I wait in eager anticipation for the pineapple and cheese concoction that my mom makes (which, by the way, is awesome!).  I eagerly awaited the arrival of my brother and his wife, my parents, and all of my in-laws.  Everybody came to our house this year, and it was beautiful.  The food was great, but sharing it with those I love was even greater.  There’s something inside of me that longs to live life in community with others.  Food may enhance that, but it can’t replace it.

I was talking with a guy in the hallway at church yesterday, and he told me that his plan was to eat Thanksgiving dinner alone, but at the last minute, a friend invited him to share dinner with their family.  His eyes lit up when he told me about being invited to their home and not having to do Thanksgiving alone.

I believe that our dissatisfaction in living life alone was woven into our souls by God.  Look at God’s words to Adam in Genesis 2:18: “Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone.”  Adam wasn’t created to be his own friend!  There was something out of whack when it was just Adam and the animals.  He, just like us, was created to live life in relationships with other people.  There’s something wrong when we find ourselves isolated and self-sufficient, and something about the holiday season brings this God-given need to the surface.  We were created to depend on others.

I keep coming back to this in my thoughts and in my blogs, but I really want my son to catch the value of traditions.  I hope and pray that our Thanksgiving traditions ring the bell of truth that God created us to be dependent on Him and dependent on others.

 

Christmas traditions

What are your Christmas traditions?  I’ve been thinking about what my family’s will be now that we’ve added one more (I had a son about a month ago).  As a Christian father, I long to pass on the faith to my son, and the story of Christmas is the story of faith.  Although change is often a much-needed breath of fresh air, traditions can and should be valued, and I want to craft traditions that help me, my wife, and my son, remember well the great story of Christ’s coming to earth in the form of a man (incarnation).  Is the answer found in painting a picture of a fat man in a red suit that flies across the whole earth and climbs through chimneys and gives kids what they want?  Is that what most honors God?  I’m not necessarily opposed to Santa Claus, but it seems to fall well short of the beauty of Christmas that God intended in the gospels.

I want our family’s traditions to make sense.  I expect a host of questions from my son.  “Why do we put up a Christmas tree?”  “Why do we put ornaments on it?”  “Why do we hang garland?”  “Why do we give gifts?”  “Why do we put fake candles in the windows?”  I’d like to give a more helpful response than, “Because that’s how we did it when I was a child.”  Traditions serve to help us remember.  Exodus 12:26-27 says, “And when your children say to you, ‘What do you mean by this service?’ you shall say, ‘It is the sacrifice of the Lord’s Passover, for he passed over the houses of the people of Israel in Egypt, when he struck the Egyptians but spared our houses.'”

I am feeling the weight of wanting my family to exalt Christ at Christmas.  I want my traditions to help us achieve this goal.  What kinds of traditions do you and your family do year after year?  Are they helping you to remember the great story of God’s redemption?

Check out this video, and be challenged.

 

We're having a son!

My wife and I just found out that we’re having a son!  I’m still in a state of awe.  Sometimes, I just walk around with a smile on my face for a while before I even realize I’m smiling.  It’s hard for me to believe that I’m having a son.  This new season of my life has been filled with a myriad of emotions, from excited to overwhelmed, from nervous to overjoyed, from awe-struck to helpless.  I’ve been scared, proud, and everything in between.  Sometimes I feel pretty big (“I’m having a son!”), and sometimes pretty small (“This whole birth thing is way beyond me, out of my control.”) I have not even seen my son (well, sort of, through the ultrasound) and yet I have this deep love for him that goes beyond words.  How?  How could I love a person, that I’ve never seen, so much?

I’ll write more thoughts as I have them.  For now, I’m kind of speechless.  Here are a couple of books I’m reading that, hopefully, will help me to parent my children in a God-honoring way:

Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Ted Tripp

Withhold Not Correction by Bruce Ray

The Bible by God

 

Have you read any other books that are helpful?  I’m open to suggestions.  I want to read stuff that helps me understand how to glorify God in my parenting.  My goal in life is to glorify God in all that I do (1 Corinthians 10:31), and parenting is what’s on the docket for me.

 
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