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Grace and Forgiveness
Grace is the fertile soil through which forgiveness roots and grows.
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When the service is poor, I ________
a. Tip the full amount anyway. Hopefully, that’ll turn things around for them and they’ll serve better for the rest of their customers that day.
b. Tip less. They need to understand that they didn’t earn the full amount.
c. Don’t tip. Tipping is based on performance, and since they didn’t perform, they don’t get the tip.
d. Consult with the manager on duty. Poor service is unacceptable.
e. Let the sever know that you are the reason they have a job.
f. …have got a different kind of tip for this server…
f. Never go back to that restaurant again.
Do you think we, as followers of Christ, have a responsibility to offer grace, even to servers?
Do you think we, as followers of Christ, have a responsibility to offer love and mercy, even to servers?
I recently said this on Twitter:
So many problems in life could be solved by a healthy small group.
The responses I received really made me think about what components go into producing a “healthy” small group.
A “healthy” small group is one that accomplishes “the win” for your system. Which means that a healthy group at our church may look a little different than the one at your church. And that’s ok. Step 1 is defining “the win.”
But there are certain things that “winning groups” do, right? Do you encourage those things?
Here are a few that I’ve come up with for our system.
A healthy small group…
…stirs your heart to action.
…helps remind you who you are in Christ.
…helps you realize the all-encompassing nature of the Gospel.
…pursues unity.
…is full of people taking steps of faith…together.
…helps you realize the fullness of Grace.
…helps remind you that the troubles in this life will one day be over.
…doesn’t wait until the group meeting to speak encouragement to one another.
…shares group responsibilities with each other.
…relies on each other when needs arise.
…isn’t satisfied with surface-level prayer requests.
…serves others.
…serves each other.
…has fun together.
…laughs together.
…gives people safe space to explore their faith.
…is a safe space for non-believers.
What would you add to the list?
Would you ever ban somebody from being a part of your small group?
That question has been going through my mind after I read an article about some American pastors who went to Uganda to speak against homosexuality. They preached in support of a bill that
…creates a new category of crime called “Aggravated Homosexuality,” which calls for death by hanging for gays or lesbians who have sex with anyone under 18 and for so-called “serial offenders.”
The bill also calls for seven years in prison for “attempt to commit homosexuality,” five years for landlords who knowingly house gays, three years for anyone, including parents, who fail to hand gay children over to the police within 24 hours and the extradition of gay Ugandans living abroad. ABC News article
So these American pastors are encouraging people to hunt down homosexuals because homosexuality is wrong and destroys the family. They have also met with the Ugandan government and preached their message to them.
Is this the way the church should treat lost and broken people?
NO!
Even if you agree that homosexuality is a sin, and destroys the family, inciting a manhunt is not what God would have us do.
Here are a couple of tips on dealing with the lost and broken when they’re in our small group. Though the sin of homosexuality may make you uncomfortable to talk about, I encourage you, for the sake of those who need your grace and love, to consider the following:
1. Remember that Christ didn’t die for you because you were good. He died for you while you were still his enemy.
You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:6-8
2. Remember that sanctification doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a process. And processes take a lot of time to finish. In fact, the process of sanctification won’t be complete in this lifetime.
3. Remember that God hates your sin. He hates it so much that He would deny you a relationship with Him, if it weren’t for Christ.
4. Listen. People appreciate when you ask them to share their story. But they feel loved and valued when you actually listen and engage them while they’re sharing.
5. Speak the truth in love. Speaking the truth is good. But truth without love is abrasive. And hurtful. And unhelpful. It doesn’t have the other’s best interest at heart. It’s self-serving and self-focused. It’s un-Godlike.
6. Be open and honest about your own struggles. This helps you to fight against pride, and makes others feel more comfortable in being honest about their struggles.
7. Invite an open dialog. Instead of condemning the lost and broken, ask if they’d be open to thinking through what the Bible has to say. And don’t let the conversation drift into a discussion that slams one sin, and minimizes another. It’s easy to condemn the sins that we don’t struggle with. It makes us feel better about the sins we constantly have to battle. Don’t fall into that trap.
8. Be quick to forgive. Those quick to forgive understand the true nature of their sin against God. Those not quick to forgive don’t truly understand the nature of their own sin, and the loving mercy of God.
9. Offer prayer and further pastoral care and counseling to those open to it.
Notice that I didn’t say, “Ask them to leave.” OR, “Point out every passage in the Bible that condemns their sin.” OR, “Petition the government to hang them.” (see article above that does just that)
Those who are broken and lost don’t need our heaping condemnation. They need our pursuing, relentless love. Jesus, to an adulterous woman, said these words:
At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
“No one, sir,” she said.
“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”John 8:9-11
A sin is a sin, no matter how small.
Do you treat some sins as worse (in God’s eyes) than others?
I recently wrote a sports editorial piece for a local paper here in middle Tennessee, the I-24 Exchange. For your convenience, I thought I’d re-post it here on my blog, though you can also find it HERE. Keep in mind…this was written last Thursday, before the news of Tiger’s indefinite leave from the game of golf.
Tiger Shanks it in the Woods
Unless you live in a hole, you’ve heard the news about “the greatest golfer of all time.” Tiger Woods was taken to the hospital for an accident he had in his SUV just outside of his Ocoee, FL, home, at 2:25 AM on Friday, December 2nd (momma always said that nothing good happens after midnight).
It was suspected that Tiger was driving under the influence that night. Rumors of marital troubles between he and his wife, Elin, only led to confirmation of years of infidelity on Tiger’s part. Elin, at this point seems to be sticking around…for the kids. His sponsors are sticking with him (though who knows for how long).
Tiger’s life is spinning out of control. To say that more accurately, Tiger’s life has already spun out of control. He’s reaping the fruit of years of poor decisions.
Why are we as a society drawn to stories where people’s lives seem to be spiraling into an absolute dumpster fire? Maybe it helps us to feel better about our own life. Maybe we see ourselves somewhere in the story. Maybe it’s because we have a morbid fascination with the failure of others. Maybe we’re just thankful it’s not us.
Tiger messed up. But so have I. And so have you. None of us have lived a life immune from bad decisions and moral failures. Tiger, on his website, says, “I have not been true to my values and the behavior my family deserves. I am not without faults and I am far short of perfect.” You may, or may not, have cheated on your spouse, but you’re not perfect either. I’d venture to guess that, at least one point in your life, you’ve been in need of someone’s forgiveness. You were guilty, and there was no denying it.
There’s hardly a greater feeling in life than being forgiven. To be granted a fresh start. To have your slate wiped clean. It’s as if a heavy, unbearable burden has been lifted off of you.
Is Tiger’s career over? Is he going to be counted as “the greatest golfer of all time?” Or has this exposure marred his fame and fortune forever? Only time can tell.
But instead of our eyes and hearts that are quick to judge, and quick to thirst for more and more dirt, maybe we would be better off extending grace and forgiveness. Tiger doesn’t deserve that. But by very definition grace is not deserved. It is not earned. It’s granted by the one who has been wronged.
I vote to give him a second chance. And I’m thankful that others have done the same for me.
I’m all for a good laugh. If this video doesn’t make you laugh, or even if it does, you should join us tomorrow morning at Grace Community Church. Expect to see nothing like this:
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