Guilty feelings about missionaries

benlreed —  September 25, 2012 — 8 Comments
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Growing up, my local church would bring in a missionary couple once/quarter on a Sunday evening to present to our congregation about the work that they’re doing. Some were working overseas, others domestically. Either way, though, the format was the same.

My pastor would come on stage with his tie a little looser, and I could just sense it was coming. Nap time.

He’d give a brief intro, then have the congregation welcome the missionary couple to stage. They’d give a few words in another language, thank us for having them, hit the lights and queue the slide show. For the next 45 minutes, they’d scroll through slide after slide of pictures of huts, out-of-focus large-group pictures, and lots of “um…what is that, honey? Did you take that picture?”

And then I’m sure they said something after that, but I never caught it. I was enjoying my nap. :)

Part of me felt guilty, though. The most boring services of the year were the ones where someone who had given their life to serve others, and taken the Gospel to the most difficult areas of the world, were presenting.

But it wasn’t my fault. I had no reason to feel guilty.

It was the missionaries’ faults for being dull.

Dark rooms and pictures of people nobody know rarely inspire a room. Especially when you’ve got a 7 year old in the room.

Your story

If you’ve got a story to tell (and, presuming that you’re reading this, you’re alive, which means you do), tell it with gusto. Tell it like your life depends on it.

More accurately, tell it like someone else’s life depends on it. Because it does.

God uses other people to call us out of our normal existence and sweep us into the fuller picture of who He’s calling us to be and what He’s calling us to do. Rarely do moral platitudes do it. Ever more rarely do condemning opinions and judgments. Stories change the world. Stories shape ministries.

It was a story that helped shape my ministry. Over the course of 2 years, I listened to the story of a guy a few years older than me share his story of being called to ministry. I was 15, and it was his story that shaped the community I was a part of. Out of that community, 4 men are serving in full-time vocational ministry.

You’ve got a story to tell, so tell it. Share your pain, your frustrations, your disappointments, and your victories with those whom God’s given you the gift of building a relationship. Share it often and share it well.

 

 

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Christ follower, husband, father, writer, pastor of small groups at Long Hollow Baptist Church. Communications director for the Small Group Network.
  • Margaret

    Sometimes it’s hard to remember that somebody gifted in people skills or in cross-cultural contexts may not also be gifted in speaking, and so we may have the impulse to withhold grace. Thanks for sharing!

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Very true, Margaret. That’s a wise word.

  • http://somewiseguy.com/ ThatGuyKC

    Thank you for this, Ben. I’ve often had the same reaction to missionary stories. I appreciate the challenge to tell our stories with gusto.

    Go big or go home.
    Keep up the good work.

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Thanks KC!

  • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

    These are interesting thoughts for a guy who went to Guatemala this summer. I’ve been sharing the story of my trip on my blog. I hope I’m doing it with gusto…I think I am. I think it can be challenging at times though to fully translate the story of our journey with others who weren’t part of the trip.

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Yeah, I went to Costa Rica and shared my story afterwards. It’s hard for sure!

  • Scott_H_H

    Exactly Margaret. Sadly fund raising is an ugly part of what a missionary has to do and it’s nothing short of a miracle to even get the chance to speak at a church, especially when you have a God-given ministry that wasn’t ‘their’ idea. And face it, the main reason for speaking is to raise funds. I think what’s needed are congregations taught to give sacrificially (since their tithe has already gone to the church) and to be excited to see just what God is doing through others. Face it, most of the people sleeping through the missionary’s presentation are also sleeping through every opportunity God has given them to serve or be on fire living out their own faith, never mind getting fired up to see someone else who has sacrificed everything to serve.

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      It may be an “ugly” part, but like you pointed out, it’s essential.

      I’m not sure what the answer is. For me as a kid, these were all boring services. I wish they hadn’t been. I’m sure it was a mixture of the presentation and the fact that I wasn’t as engaged as I could’ve been.

      Maybe a big part of the burden needs to fall back on the local pastor, to help people understand the sacrifice involved on the missionaries’ ends as well as the sacrifice needed on the local congregation’s end to support.

      Maybe there’s a way for a missionary to maximize their gifts, too, and ask for help where that’s needed as it relates to communication, presentations, and fund-raising.

      Just a thought. Thanks for jumping in the discussion, Scott!