Quit trying to be funny

benlreed —  May 9, 2011 — 6 Comments

Want a snapshot into my thought process?  Here you go.

image by Beaty Bass

Me: I could write a blog off of this thought:

If you’re not funny, don’t try to be.

Because I read something the other day where someone was trying to be funny, and they weren’t.  It was painful.

My brain: But you write things that you think are funny.  And they’re not.  So they’re painful.

Me: Ouch.

My brain: Don’t judge people on a funniness scale.

Me: I don’t mean to jud…

My brain: And who made you the funny judge, anyway?

Me:

My brain: And isn’t “funny” subjective?  What’s funny to you may not be funny to everyone.

Me: Well, ok.  But some things just aren’t funny. Case-in-point: well, um…I can’t think of one right now.  But you know what I mean.

My brain: You mean that there are some things that just aren’t universally funny.  Right?

Me: Yeah.

My brain: There you go again.  Judging “funny” purely by what you find “funny.”

Me: But why would someone write something intending to be funny, when they’re not?

My brain: Hey, you don’t have to read their stuff…

Me: I guess not, but…

My brain: No, you don’t.  Just quit reading.

Me: I guess you’re right.  Nobody is forcing me to read.  That would be weird if they did.

My brain: Don’t you write from your own experiences?

Me: Yes.

My brain: And aren’t your experiences sometimes funny to you?

Me: Yes.

My brain: Boom!  Then you just contradicted yourself.  You’re funny to you, but not to everyone.  Isn’t this what you’re frustrated with other writers about?

Me: I suppose…

My brain: And are you forcing anyone to read your stuff?

Me: I sure hope not.

My brain: What kind of an answer is that?  It’s either a “yes” or a “no.”

Me: I guess that realizing there are countless voices out there, and that those non-funny funny guys can have their voice, too, is good.

My brain: Finally.  You get it.  It doesn’t matter.  They’re funny to someone.

Me: Be who you are, and let others be who they are. Hey, I think I’ll Twitter that.  Wait, no.  I’m having an important internal dialogue right now.  Stick with it.

My brain: What just happened right there?

Me: Sorry.  …But can’t I be a little critical?  Bust on people a little when they’re not funny?

My brain: Nope.  Again…you’re not that funny to most people.

Me: Ok, ok…I get it.  I’m not funny either.  Will you lighten up already?

My brain: You need to lighten up.  Give people the freedom to express themselves however they want.

Me: Fair enough.

See what I have to deal with?  Here’s my own takeaway from my own thought process:

I’ll let you be you.

In fact, let me take that one step further.

Please, please…you be you.

We need you.  Your brand of humor.  Your style of relating.  Your way of leading.  Your ideas, passions, giftings, and set of failures.  Your training, your taste, and your family dynamics.
Don’t be me.  I won’t be you.

And, I promise…I won’t judge you for being you.

Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other. In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. (Romans 12:4-6)

 

 

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Christ follower, husband, father, writer, pastor of small groups at Long Hollow Baptist Church. Communications director for the Small Group Network.
  • http://profiles.google.com/lazyleezard Tammy S

    Hehe..love it! I experience this sort of thing with my husband a lot. Even though we both find similar things funny, there are times I get a strange look when I show him something on the web that I thought was hilarious!

  • http://twitter.com/noelbagwell Noel Bagwell

    I would ask what the catalyst was for this post, but I’m a little concerned it might be something I wrote. LOL

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Ha! I’ll never reveal my sources, Noel… (but, just so you know, it wasn’t you!)

  • http://www.livingngrace.com Luther Wesley

    very good post…..I am not funny, sarcastic at times, but rarely funny. My life is either funny or sad depending upon the perspective from which it is viewed

    • http://www.benreed.net Ben Reed

      Thanks Luther!

  • Poo

    A guy(who knew me only since 3 months) once said that I try to be funny (which I was not) & said that I’m childish & to grow up. I felt bad when he said that. I said sorry to him as I thought I must have annoyed him sometimes. Now I think, what a fool I was to say sorry. I never forced him to laugh and I was not tryin to be funny but ya I try to have fun to enjoy the moment or spend it in a better way may be, rather than being serious all the time. Anyways, Now I think a lot before/while talking to him. I don’t think I can ever be myself when I’m with him & so may be a reason why we hardly talk now. I feel bad the way things have turned into, coz I miss him.